This inquiry is the first to handle the manners in which male culprits of intimate partner violence (IPV) talk about memory in their IPV reports and how these are employed to control their liability for the violence. Using and expanding the discursive psychological literature on talk about memory, which points out how such talk is employed to execute practical actions within interactions, a discourse analysis is run on interviews with six male culprits of current, multiple IPV incidents who were undergoing therapy. The assay recognized the different manners in which memory was employed: first, disremembering assertions were employed to shun responding awkward and possibly accusing questions; second, assertions of evident memories were emplyed to install partners as tricky and liable for violence; and third, assertions about concurrently reminding and disremembering were found. The implications of these strategies for handling identity and liability are debated.