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Advances in the Study of Social Action in Online Interaction
Edited by Valeria Sinkeviciute
[Internet Pragmatics 7:1] 2024
► pp. 7–34

The invitation game

Strategies for launching the prospect of meeting in Danish Tinder chats between male and female users

| University of Southern Denmark

This paper analyses Danish Tinder chats that in the very first message after ‘matching’ immediately launch the prospect of meeting. A collection of 41 threads is analyzed using Goffman’s (1967, 1974) concepts of face and interactional framing, outlining methods participants use to open a chat after having matched and addressing the interest and purpose they have approached in the other party. Methods include, in particular, inferences that can be made based on the type of activity or setting suggested for a future meeting, indirectness and ambiguity related to how the social actions are designed, and the conversational cues used such as emojis and enthusiasm markers. The analysis also shows how participants work out and negotiate whether they have a common interest in meeting, in particular, how they exploit and deal with ambiguities used extensively as a mechanism for flirting. The analysis further suggests that practices adhere to gender-stereotypes showing how participants may handle and orient to a norm that women should not agree to meet with a stranger early on in a chat correspondence.

Keywords: invitations, ambiguity, Tinder chats, gender, facework, framing, play
Article outline
  • 1.Introduction
  • 2.Invitations as social action
  • 3.Launching invitations in a first move: Ambiguity and playfulness
  • 4.Data
  • 5.Using invitation formats to address potential implications from having matched
    • 5.1Suggesting a meeting as a first move
    • 5.2Inquiring about the recipient’s willingness
    • 5.3Announcing willingness to meet
  • 6.Playing with the prospect of meeting
    • 6.1Proposing implausible future common activities
    • 6.2Alluding to future common scenarios where the recipient plays an implausible role
    • 6.3Pick-up lines that include references to a future meeting
  • 7.Concluding remarks
  • Acknowledgements
  • Notes
  • References
Published online: 4 June 2024
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